Not only has the temperature in my neck of the real world turned cold, it has apparently turned a bit cold here too. If you haven't been to the Vivi Journal yet, I'll fill you in. I've resigned from the committee. I don't want folks to take it personal, as I thought it was great idea, but it has gotten cold. Not everyone, but more then you think.
JLand is supposed to be fun. The Vivi's are supposed to be a friendly way to recognize a few journals without tearing down the others. Not giving an open forum to tear down other people, their thoughts, their ideas, their beliefs. It's not supposed to be an ugly competition. It's supposed to be about expanding our horizons finding new journals, sharing experiences with others. I cannot honestly say that is what I see. I see hate and hurtful things happening. I've tried to stand by and be strong. Ride out the storm and fulfill my commitment, but I can't. I am not being true to me. I have way too much in my life to deal with and that is more important. I'm sorry. I'm tired of folks feeling the need to run from journal to journal only to compile bullshit and dump it by the truckload along the way. It's a sad life when that is the highlight of their day, but it takes all kinds I guess.
I do hope friendships aren't lost over this, but somehow I think there will be and that is sad, very sad. I'll be fine and my chin is high as I know I am doing the right thing for me. It is about being true to me, not what others think I should be true to. I know some of you will understand and appreciate it. Love ya for that! I wish everyone good luck. I will be back to have some fun with my bullshit entries and graphics in no time. Right now it just isn't fun. When I figure out what I want on my side bar I'll update that too. Maybe tomorrow. LOL
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Sorry to hear this D, I saw it at the Vivi journal, & also about Stevie & Gayla resigning. Sad! I guess you saw the entry I made earlier re all this crap.
Hope it all works out, just take care of you!
Blessings, Sugar
I posted the solution to the ViVi problem over there on that journal...love the graphic by the way (cough cough)
NJLB
http://journals.aol.com/njlittlebear/MyBigFatGeekLife
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hang in there:) someone always has to ruin it for others. Like thumper said if you can't say nothing nice then say nothing at all
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This is so awful ,but dont believe real friendships will be lost ,and yes I do agree ,'TO THINE OWN SELF BE TRUE ' Bless you for always being my friend how I value this ,never forget I think your clever 1 with love Jan xxx
I saw last night that you'd resigned from the committee. I'm so sorry people have to be so nasty. I must be reading the wrong journals, or maybe the right ones, as I've not read anything derogatory about anyone or anything concerning the Vivi's. Yeah, journalling is supposed to be fun and a way to express ourselves and make new friends, it's not a war or competition, nobody wins anything. I hate those who make a big drama out of everything; let's live and let live. Those trying to ruin the fun are just showing themselves up as a small minded bunch of idiots who need to go out anf get a life. Can't wait to see you back doing your graphics! Jeannette xx
I hadn't been over to see what is going on..but I had planned to go.I thought you were supposed to just vote for the journals you really liked .When I read that there was just a few that was taking a test...i thought what the ........Well,anyway I wanted you and sazzy to know that I love your graphics, I know how hard you gals work on them and to share with us is just sooo wonderful, and your'e the WINNERS IN MY BOOK.
ALWAYS, ~connie~
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Ahhh, now I remember what happened last year with the awards! Guess I had blocked it out. I try to stay far away from the drama in J-land and am happy I have a private journal now. Some people are just out there to bring others down because they can be anonymous on the net and not held responsible for their actions. There are many of them out there, as you found out, and there is nothing you can do about it. They will find other ways to spew their negativity because that's just how they are. It's sad really. I know that J-land is a LOVING, CARING and WONDERFUL community first hand and I just ignore the ones are out to hurt. There are many others that are here for good.
Hugs and lots of love,
Lisa
{{{{Hugs}}}}}
Brenda
I can't believe some of these people really want to start crap about the vivis.....it's supposed to be all in good fun and about making friends and finding new journals. Well this really stinks!!! But I do understand and yes, you have to do what is right for you. GBU (((D))) you know how much we love ya!!
(((HUGS)))
Angel
Sorry Donna....lose a friendship over this ....no way!!! Love you gal.
Betty
i have some real trust issues as you well know so please dont leave J Land, thats all i ask. I trust you and truly care for YOU. I dont want you to leave.
hugs, lisa
Hi Donna as I am fairly new to J-land i really have trouble getting around. I have visited the Vivis but it is all foriegn to me. I came to Jland because of the problems in chats. I have met some very nice people while here. It is very true, our journals are our own and while some may not necessarily agree with the writings of the graphics they are ours. We have the right to voice our feelings without anyone putting them down. If they do not like they can choose to visit a different journal. You have opened your journal to me and your graphics. You are brilliant with these graphics they absolutely amaze me and it is truly a dream that i can learn to do this some day and your truly beautiful graphics inspire me. Dont let anyone put you down I love your journals and although I have not seen a lot of journals I do know without a doubt that you are very gifted in what you do and I am proud that i can visit and see your brilliant work.
TreesRGreen78
Hi Donna,
Read about your decision in Jackie's journal, and am very very sad. You are a leading member of this community, whether involved with the awards or not. Always be true to yourself, my friend. Take care
Guido x
Funny. I usually don't confuse this easily. I never really understood the big deal last year-this year ditto. I don't know Who is making trouble. I don't know Why.
Writing in my journal is fun. This other stuff is just silly. ~Mary
i'm so sorry things are turning out like this and that you feel the need to resign because of it. i agree...it should be fun, and a way to check out some new journals....too bad that it's become such a selfish act for so many.
gina
As a past committee member, I can tell you that it is challenging, and that you must be devoted to the kind of committment you mention or else it will all fail.
Charley
http://journals.aol.com/cdittric77/courage
Donna, I am so sorry you have felt compelled to resign, the committe needs people like you. I have the feeling that the awards are going to fall apart now and maybe not go ahead, not because of you but because of some of the things I have read on the official awards journal. I just cannot believe the hurtful bloody crap and bullshit people are writing on there. Why is it that award seem to bring all the insects out of the woodwork. Does that seem harsh? Well, it is the truth. The majority of journallers on here are kind-hearted, open and friendly but there are the slugs and crawlies that will always try and spoil things for others. We should not give in to them. It was bad enough last year but mainly after the awards were announced, I could hardly believe what I was reading and that it has started so early. So many journallers have come up since last year and it must look awful to them. We call ourselves a community, let us hope it stays that way. So sorry you felt the need to quit
Hi Donna,
You know I think you've done the right thing in resigning and I'm glad Steve did too.
This site is about being yourself, no matter what anyone else thinks and that's what we should ALL do.
If, by holding this awards thing, a war will break out on here, then I for one, don't want the awards. I'd much rather have what we already have here. It's priceless.
The friendships I have here mean so much more to me.
J.Land without your tags.... Can't imagine it.
Love you D.
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It's sad that things happen this way :( I only hope you haven't lost too much faith in j-land xx
jen
Still love ya Donna. Big hugs and GBU, Shelly
I am thouroly ( and blessedly?) in the dark here! All I know is I love your journal and your graphics are soooooooooooooo awesome!!!
love ya,
carlene
Hugs, D, I hope things start to get better for you soon. Chris
Hang in there D and I love you Girl.
Krissy
http://journals.aol.com/fisherkristina/SometimesIThink
I had no idea that people took this stuff so seriously, and, unfortunately, that includes you, Miss Donna. Granted, I do not have all the details, but isn't that what "open forums" are all about? People will say/write things, and by people I mean all kinds from nut-jobs to ass hole to school-moms, to nuns, to psychos. You should hear/see some of the comments people make after I post a controversial entry. I'm sorry that your feelings were hurt, and that really is unfortunate, but perhaps this was not your calling? Just a thought. PLEASE don't hate me for speaking out loud. All I wanted from the awards was to gain a wider audience base. Now I'm begining to feel like an uninvited guest.
Disappointed,
Kenkoi
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Hi Donna,
I'm another one of those who are in the dark about all the problems.....but that's okay with me! (ha) I enjoy your journal and love your graphics, and I'll always come visit you!
Take Care,
~Bilinda~
I haven't been following any of this. All I know is that there are people out there who aren't happy unless someone else is unhappy. I don't blame you for taking care of yourself. The stress is not worth it. This has nothing to do with you, your family or friends that will desert you because of it. If there are 'friends' like that, they aren't very good friends.
Jude
http://journals.aol.com/jmorancoyle/MyWay
dear Donna
hugssssssssss! Hey Im so sorry that things fell apart, but manymany of us love you, your journal and your graphics very much so hang in here please!
love,natalie
AWWW, FRIEND I CAN ONLY GUESS AT WHAT ALL IS GOING ON...I HAVE SEEN A FEW THINKG WRITTEN HERE AND THERE THAT WERE ....WELL SEEMING LIKE THINGS WERE GETTING CHILLY IN J-LAND...I DON'T BLAME YOU...I WOULDN'T WANT TO BE IN THE MIX OF IT EITHER...SAD WHEN ALL THIS GETS GOING ON AMONG GROWN ADULTS ISN'T IT!!! SO HIGH SCHOOL!!! HUGS,TERRYANN
48 here this morning, brrrrrrrrrrr, but i love it. I also love your journal and graphics, and your wise words. your writing is spectacular. I look forward to reading your entries. have a great weekend. (((hugs)))
Cindy
What happened? It must have been bad. Whatever it was that caused you to step down, I hope it or they realize what they are missing out on. You got some talent.
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