I saw this face and thought maybe doing something with it would get me in a better mood. It worked, somewhat. The day itself was good. I had a productive day and it flew by. Driving home I started to get a slight headache, but it was only on my left side. Near my sinuses and behind my eye. I got into the house and turned on my computer. Mistake number 1. I got some really cold emails and read some journals who's authors are having issues. I really don't understand why folks just don't leave others alone. Why they find it necessary to sporadically attack other folks for no apparent reason or because they have a different opinion.
Hate mail because they did an entry in memory of 9/11, but because they are not in the states they could no way understand. WTF!?! All anyone had to do was turn on the TV and see the destruction, and they felt. It was hard not to. Only the coldest of cold could feel indifferent about the day or the events. I was proud that my friends around the world remembered, that they took the time to do something, anything, to mark the day. The act of violence that took place that day touched every inch of the earth, every skin color, every nationality, everyone.
An email gets sent out and the responses to it get a bit out of hand. I started just deleting anything with the subject matter. I wish people would learn to blind carbon people. I hate that my email is exposed and then I get copied on every piece of drama that follows because one person disagreed with the mail and had to reply to all. I am then randomly included in someone else's mail distribution. Someone I don't even know. Please people, I don't mind being included in the mails, but respect my privacy and my time along with everyone else on your list. Blind carbon your mail. It's a simple process. With AOL mail, once you add all the names you want to send to, put (( before the first name and )) after the last. It takes a second and will cut down on this crap. I am not mad at the person who originally sent the mail, I'm sure it was an honest mistake. Just get in the habit of doing it always and then there will be no worries. No one will have to worry about who and what is being done with their email address.
If you've had issues with someone, let it go. Don't sporadically start the bullshit just to start the bullshit. I've been a victim for a year and it's tiring. I've read about a few others today as well. I know everyone is sick of the entries regarding this shit, I am too. I am also tired of having to be politically correct. That I should be quiet to keep the peace while the perpetrator continually pulls shit because they have no life or are bored. If you don't like someone ignore them. Don't visit their journal, don't sit and read comment after comment to build an imaginary case. Don't follow them to see what they comment in other journals. Let it go. Move on. Grow up!! If you know of someone pulling the shit, talk to them. Don't allow them to drag down an entire community. It's not funny. It's not cute. It's immature, and if you knowingly sit there and watch you're just as guilty. Get off your high horse none of us are perfect, get over it. Move on!
OK, I'm done ranting. I've not hit delete or private and I would really like it to stay that way. I've seen way too many take that path. This is supposed to fun. I have enough drama in real life I don't need it here. I'm sure you all can agree.
Hugs
~d
41 comments:
Donna, I am so sorry this crap happened, Hugs to you ((((((( Donna )))))))))) Have a good Thursday, Hugs Lisa
You said it, when you said, "grow up". That's it in a nutshell!
Sug
You attract more of this crap because you have a very popular journal...it goes with the territory I guess. Don't let them bother you. Trolls started showing up two seconds after AOL Journals began. Having said that -- I like it when you rant!! ;)
hugs,
Russ
J-land is petty as hell every little thing. When did psp become war who's right who's wrong who's better blah blah blah i do it for fun and it upsets me to see my friends upset about dumb stuff.
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Donna you are so right ,these people arent on our orbit ,they use their computers for an entirely different reason to us ,who enjoy our journals and the friends we have made ..love Jan xx
((((((((((((HUGSTOYOU)))))))))))))))))I am sorry you had to deal with this.Hope you have a nice day.
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I'm with you all the way my friend. I blog for pleasure and hate to see animosity in any way.
Lets all lighten up now.
Love your Tag.
Hugs
Jeanie xx
You are right....(again)
Love ya's
Michele
you ever heard that saying "I got your back"? Well, i know no matter what, you have my back and babe, i have yours too. You have guts, HUGE guts. More than me. As you well know, i sent out that 80's email and did not know what BCC meant and the shit began flying and sticking quickly. Craziness.
if only we could all get along.
i love you, always.
lj
:(* on all the drama. There's enough in real life, why have it on journals...well the drama that's created for the SAKE of it I should say when it comes to journals!! Oh and I so agree on people BCC'ing it is a huge pet peave of mine and just as huge is when one then goes and hits "reply all" vs just reply...because 99.9999% of the time not a single other person in that email group wants your reply!
I LOVE the tag, is it snaggable?
God Bless
Christy
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Amen Sister.... Tawnya
I'm away from Journals for a week and you are getting into another hot mess? Do I have to babysit you? LOL
Oh the Joys of J-Land...I need a shirt that says that!
I totally agree..I guess some people just don't have lives of their own or else are so unhappy they can't stand the thought of others enjoying something.
Lisa
http://journals.aol.com/wwfbison/life-on-a-bison-farm
Hi Donna
I'm sorry you had such a rough evening.
Sept. 11, 2001, I was n Canada camping... Fort Erie area (I'm sure you know where that is). Most people had access to television, I did not. The attitude of the Canadian people astounded me! They actually believe "Americans deserve what happened". And Americans are so " arrogant" , "they (Americans) believe they can police the world, cause war, and install chosen leaders in whatever country they want".
The destruction was right in front of their eyes and yet, those people truly believed those innocent people "deserved it". Unfortunely, I can't defend the decisions of our president on our military. I simply don't have the all the facts and I'm not that smart. But, I do know that I won't wish death on any other human being. I do know that not all Canadians feel this way, but many do.
Sorry, had to rant a bit. The people surrounding me were suddenly very hostile, and I felt very exposed and almost afraid. I was in a different country and couldn't get home until they opened the border a week or two later.
Btw, I am so glad you blind copy your emails. My last computer crashed from a virus recieved from someone who multi-mailed.
Hope you are feeling better...ice the headache, delete those horrible critiques, sit back and enjoy a nice hot cup of coffee. You're doing positive & wondorful things in your life...and you are loved.
peace
~Bethe~
Fun.... and friendship... that is why I am here!
be well,
Dawn
http://journals.aol.com/princesssaurora/CarpeDiem/
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That face would put me in a great mood! Linda
I'm sorry for the rude emails you got. Sigh! There are some very emotionally disturbed people in this world who will never understand what it means to be caring and compassionate. I'm not sure what the nature of these emails was, but I know that no matter what side of the issue you're on concerning the war in Iraq, it's impossible not to relive the tragedy of 9/11 and be deeply and forever scarred by what happened to our country on that day. I enjoy your writing and beautiful artwork. Please remember there are many more of us who appreciate you than the handful of losers who try to hurt.
Love From Minnesota!
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I can't believe the ammount of people that have had abuse for doing tributes outside the USA. I mean I aint being rude here but we have had it in the UK for years with the IRA. Where were the Americans when we needed them huh?
WTF???? D, as far as I am concerened, you are an Angel in disguise. Take no Effing notice. I just cant beleive this is happening at all!
We all felt it that day, and Americans were not the only people killed on that day. All I can say is, I work with Americans, have American friends and I know, theres good and bad in all people. It's just 1% of Americans that are arse holes like the 1 % of Brits, French etc!
The rest of Americans wouldn't think like that, they would be glad, like any other country, that the world is supporting this hideaous war against the 1% of the arse holes that are causing these problems.
Kiss kiss, Gaz xxxxx
Dear Donna: Just want to let you know some of us read your journal because we appreciate your love and concern for family amd readers. You are especially talented in having a fun way of writing and sharing photos. Also admire your graphics, and your willingness to share them with us. Please don't delete or go private. When bloggers do that it is like losing a member of the family. Just wanted you to know you ARE appreciated. Thanks, LaVern
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Amen, D. Besides that, being private does not protect, as we've seen. Right now, I just totally ignore the crap. I have far too much going on in my life to worry about. I refuse to fuel anybody's fire and that's exactly what we do when we even mention something. Many people are very petty. I simply don't have time for it. I think we all need to move on and ignore. The clowns won't perform to an emtpy audience. Love ya, Chris
Amen. We all have enough drama in our lives which is why I come here for something else.
I loved being public, but the only reason I had to go private was because a lurker male was reading my blog (he claimed to know me from my blog which is funny because I don't have any commenters that are male) and started stalking my youngest daughter. I mean I'm from a very small town and anybody would know me and my kids from the pictures. So in order to protect my children I had to say enough.
Privacy still doesn't stop emails though unless you block them too.
Take care, Chrissie
I totally agree with you Donna. Why people have to send a reply to everyone on the list is beyond me. If these people had a life they wouldn't have time to sit and write such crap! I love that baby in the graphic, look at that grin ~ he's so cute! Jeannette xxxx
Only two words to be said - Thank YOU!!!! Love your tag and your talent! Hope your day gave you a reason to smile! Take care of you,
Katie
I don't blame you for feeling angry... Linda
I have yet to send an email to everyone in my address book. Everyone is different and may not enjoy the same thing or have the same view. Yes, ignore and move on. They just enjoy ruining someones day! Have a wonderful evening, Janie
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You go girl sometimes people need to be told off
I've never used AOL to send a blind carbon yet. If I can't say it in a public atmosphere, I don't need to be saying it behind someone's back.
Okay, that little rant is over.
Now about those idiots that you're referring to? Like all bullies, these people who play games have "issues". It's a pity. With that much mental power or imagination on hand, you'd think they'd put it into something constructive.
D - Have a better day and get rid of the headache. Be good to yourself.
Jude
http://journals.aol.com/jmorancoyle/MyWay
bravo hun bravo,since the 9/11 entries Ive had three intial emails,then when I replied saying nicely I wanted no part of their conspiracy theories on the subject,I was bombarded with 25 mails all slating me,my beliefs and my blog,so I let loose,sorry and all that,but thats the way I am,they upset two of my friends,both suffering,one from cancer one recovering and I just flipped,but then I guess thats what they wanted,anyway all are reproted to aol for the abusive and rascist way i was addressed so two fingers are in the air ,i agree bcc is the way to mail from now on,I didnt even know these people,honestly xxxx zoe
http://journals.aol.co.uk/zoepaul6968/domestic-chaos/
Well said Donna. I couldn't agree more!
Pam
I agree 100 %, well said.
Hugs and love,
Joyce
i don't follow enough journals to be in the 'know' and that's alright...cause i really don't want any part of what you describe here...but you said it...stuff like this is so immature. and the best method is just to ignore it. why can't people be adults and caring towards their fellow man??? i love the graphic...it made me smile, too.
gina
D! WOW! I learned something new today. Right here. I had NO IDEA how to blind copy mail! Not that I need to since I pretty much send out to one or two people at a time, but I've wondered for ages. LOL
Hope your days have moved beyond. Honestly. I just don't get it and I suppose I never will. But I like what you say at the end. It's supposed to be fun. This is a place to get away from the crap. :::sigh::;
I stand beside you on this one, D... How completely ludicrous! I feel that anyone can write whatever their heart directs them to ~ without being hurtful to others. When they choose to demean and disrespect, they are out of line.
I hope your weekend has been peaceful. Love the graphic ~ what a cutie!
::hug::
chelle
Well said D.............. Obviously a small minority of 'mindless idiots' who obviously have nothing better to do than attack people with words.
No-one forcibly holds you in front of your computer and makes you read what another person has written in their journal. You have no right to criticise what another human being chooses to write, especially if it is in their own journal, if you dont like it.......easy.......Don't read it !!!
And as for making comments on 9/11 and not being in the States........ what a load of b*llshit, you have absolutely no idea about human beings, do you?
So something that happens in another part of the world cannot affect someone because they do not live there...........what a pile of sh*te. You have no concept of human nature at all. Those people who commented may have had friends or relations that were affected by the tragedy, what right have you to judge others, absolutely none. Why not lift back up your stone and crawl back under it !!!
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